Romans 14:13


Don’t judge me!!!! (Matthew 7:1 – it is the only verse many people know)

You’re not perfect, you can’t judge me.

What is the person really saying? What is the person reacting to?

Don’t be judgmental – don’t reject me – don’t look down on me.

I bet most of the time that people say, “Don’t judge me” they are reacting the attitude of your words.


How do you react when you are criticized? When someone tells you you’re wrong?

I can’t believe you wore that to worship!

I can’t believe you said that!

Why would you do that?

You did what?


Your reaction, “Thank you for pointing out how stupid I am.”

“Thank you for letting me know I am not meeting your standards.”


Our reaction is not, thank you. We take a defensive posture and defend our actions or thoughts.


If we want people to quit reacting to us with, Don’t judge me, then let’s start approaching them in a way that doesn’t make them defensive. Let’s have the eyes of a doctor not the eyes of a judge.


Our goal should be to help someone grow not condemn them.


Ill. A man who riding on a bus and was greatly disturbed at a young boy who was running up and down the aisle of the bus screaming and laughing at the top of his lungs, while the young boy’s Dad just sat idly by.

The man could not believe that someone would be so rude and inconsiderate, of the other people around him. He then began to notice other unflattering things about the man. His hair was unkempt so he was probably homeless, and his eyes were bloodshot, so he had to be an alcoholic. Finally, not able to take any more of the child this man went and approached the dad and demanded that he get control of his young son.

The dad seeming to be shaken from a trance apologized to the man and told him that his wife had just died at the hospital after struggling all night and he was trying to think of a way to break the news to the boy.

Then the man became understanding and listened to the man and help with his son.


You can be judgmental and condemning looking for fault in others or you can be understanding and loving looking for the good.


Yes, there is right and wrong and yes we can determine what is right in God’s eyes based on Biblical teaching.

But are we really sharing the gospel? Are we really helping the person repent from their sin and find healing and forgiveness in Jesus?


1 Corinthians 5:12 What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? 13  God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked man from among you.”


Paul says, don’t judge non-Christians. God will judge those who don’t accept Him.


John 3:18  Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son.


We don’t need to judge and condemn those who don’t believe in Jesus. We need to share the good news of Jesus.  We need to give them hope in Jesus.  We need to let them know where they can find forgiveness.

Jesus did not come to condemn; He came to save.


John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. 17  For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. 18  Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son.


Jesus came to save the world not condemn the world. The world is already condemned without Jesus – our goal is to let the world know about Jesus.


Watch Jesus live this out. We are the Pharisees in this story.  Jesus is Jesus. The woman is all sinners.

John 8:3 The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group 4  and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5  In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” … 10  Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” 11  “No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”


Jesus did not condemn her but He did judge her activity as sin and told her to change. The woman was guilty but Jesus forgave her, “leave your life of sin.”  Repent, change your life.


I don’t believe we can be effective with calling sinners to repentance by calling them names and treating them with disrespect. If you treat me like that I don’t want any part of your “Love.”


Our job is not to tell people they are sinners. (I had to stop and consider that statement while I was typing.)

Our job is to tell people that Jesus loves them.

People will ask, “Why would God love me?”  We will get to the point that Jesus loves them and came to earth to die for them because they are a sinner.  We will get to the point that God is holy and we are not.

But we will never have the opportunity to let them know how much they are loved if we start off making them feel hated.

You know when someone looks down there nose at you and you know when someone loves you. Who will you turn to in a time of need?  Who would you ask about the love of God?


I don’t think we have a love problem. I don’t even think we have an attitude problem.

I think we have an execution problem.


Luke 7:37 When a woman who had lived a sinful life in that town learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee’s house, she brought an alabaster jar of perfume, 38  and as she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them. 39  When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is–that she is a sinner.”


It is easy to see the sinner and think poorly of them. It is harder to love and forgive.

What was Jesus reaction to this sinful woman?


Luke 7:48 Then Jesus said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.”


Sinful people need to find the forgiveness of Jesus. How can we help them?

Don’t be judgmental!

Love them, accept them. Let them know that Jesus loved them enough to die for them.  When they accept Jesus’ love they will want to please Him.

When you love someone you want to make them happy.  You will do things their way out of love.

As a Christian that is what we do. We are tempted to sin and chose evil but we don’t (most of the time) because we love Jesus and want to make Him proud, we want to show Him how much we love Him.


Jesus came to love and we should be about loving others.

That looks different if the person is a Christian.


So we are not to judge those who have not accepted Jesus but we are to judge those who have accepted Jesus (1 Peter 4:17).


1 Corinthians 5:12 What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? 13  God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked man from among you.”


Ananias and Sapphira were judged (Acts 5) to keep the church holy. We are to judge to keep the church holy.

Jesus gave us a guide of how to execute judgment of one who sins.


Matthew 18:15 “If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.”


As Christians we can follow the scripture and know what sin is and confront those who are sinning. The motivation is to win them back.  We don’t confront to condemn; we confront to love them back to following Jesus.


Paul taught the Corinthians how to do this.


1 Corinthians 5:1 …A man has his father’s wife. 2 And you are proud! … And I have already passed judgment on the one who did this, just as if I were present.


Paul judged the sinning Christian and told the Corinthian Christians to judge and expel the sinner.

We have had to do this here – it is hard but we expelled out of love.


1 Corinthians 5:5 hand this man over to Satan, so that the flesh may be destroyed and his spirit saved on the day of the Lord.


The goal is not to hate this sinful Christian; the goal is to make sure this sinful Christian repents and is saved on the day of God’s judgement.


Believe it or not there is a third side to this do not judge coin.


Romans 14:13  Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another.


Now Paul tells us not to Judge our bother. The context will give us the answer.


Romans 14:1 Accept him whose faith is weak, without passing judgment on disputable matters. 2  One man’s faith allows him to eat everything, but another man, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. 3  The man who eats everything must not look down on him who does not, and the man who does not eat everything must not condemn the man who does, for God has accepted him. 4  Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To his own master he stands or falls. And he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand.


Don’t judge one another on matters of opinion; what you eat or what days you hold as sacred (Romans 14:5-8).


“In Essentials Unity, in non-Essentials Liberty, in All Things Love.”

Essentials is what the Bible says.

Non-Essentials is what you try to make the Bible say.

But in all things love.

Our attitude needs to be: “Some may but I cannot.”  “I cannot but some may.”


If you don’t have chapter and verse, then don’t hold your standard of life to someone else.


Let them know why you believe a certain way or even why you think it is beneficial for their spiritual life but don’t hold it as a test of fellowship. Just because someone practices a non-Essential different than you doesn’t make them a sinner.  Don’t add to God’s word; that is what the Pharisees did and Jesus condemned them.


Don’t judge sinners who have not accepted Jesus.

Do judge sinners who have accepted Jesus.

Don’t judge Christians who practice differently in non-Essentials.

Do judge yourself.


Lydia asked to be judged by the apostles (Acts 16:15).

Paul tells us to judge ourselves before we partake of the Lord’s Supper.


1 Corinthians 11:28  A man ought to examine himself before he eats of the bread and drinks of the cup. 29  For anyone who eats and drinks without recognizing the body of the Lord eats and drinks judgment on himself. 30  That is why many among you are weak and sick, and a number of you have fallen asleep. 31  But if we judged ourselves, we would not come under judgment. 32  When we are judged by the Lord, we are being disciplined so that we will not be condemned with the world.


Judge yourself and ask others to judge you so you will not be condemned when the Jesus comes on that last day.


Christian if you judge yourself you won’t have time to be judging non-Christians.


If you have never accepted Jesus. If you have not received the forgiveness of your sins.  Know that Jesus does not condemn you; He wants you to accept His love.


You are living like the sinful woman, against His will. You are living a life that is hurting you.

Jesus wants better for you.


Will you judge yourself against a God who created you and loves you and recognize you are a sinner.

They will you come and repent of your sins and be immersed so your sins will be forgiven and you will receive the indwelling gift of God the Holy Spirit?