Jesus wants you to forgive because He is a God of forgiveness. Colossians 3:13 states, “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

Jesus wants you to forgive. However, Satan, the evil one, does not want you to forgive. Thus, he tells you at least 6 lies.

Lie # 1 – If I forgive, I am saying what has happened to me is no big deal and it is Okay.

Lie # 2 – If I forgive, I am being weak, a doormat, or a fool.

Lie # 3 – If I forgive, I am giving permission for the person to hurt me again.

Lie # 4 – Forgiveness is only a spiritual exercise that has no practical               applications.

Lie # 5 – Forgiving and forgetting are the same thing. If you can’t forget then you can’t really forgive.

Lie # 6 – Forgiveness should occur only after all of the effects of the event are over.

How can you forgive others?

Matthew 18:15-35 teaches you how to forgive. Acknowledge that the person is guilty of hurting you and go to the person. Know that you will hurt whether you forgive or not. Neil T. Anderson wrote, “Forgiveness is agreeing to live with the consequences of another person’s sin. … Yet you’re going to live with those consequences whether you want to or not, your only choice is whether you will do so in bitterness of unforgiveness or the freedom of forgiveness.” Recognize that you are not trying to forget what happened; you are forgiving the person who hurt you. Lastly, remember that Jesus forgives you when you hurt (sin against) Him.

How do you know if you have forgiven the person that hurt you? First, you remember what they have done, but you don’t seek revenge. Second, you remember the pain, but it does not create malice. Third, you can truthfully say to the person, “I wish you well.” Lastly, you do not use the past offense against them.

“[F]orgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13).